How do I act while giving my boyfriend a lap dance? I used to be an exotic dancer. To give him the best dance ever, or one he'll remember, go get a sexy outfit, you can go to Castles, Triangles, any dancers place or victorias secret, whatever, heels, stelettos, or go barefoot, when getting the lingerie make sure its something that you know will make him go wild and something that will make you look and feel amazing. Do your hair and make up in a different way than usual. Clean up the room you're going to do it in. (Haha its so horrible when you do it in a messy room and you trip on something hahah) set the lighting, whether there's a nightlight, lights on, whatever, (I like doing it with candle light, it sets the mood and helps me think he can't see every flaw I have, if I'm having one of those days) pick out music you love. If you can dance to rock (love it) rap, classic, whatever makes you get in a happy hoppy sexy mood, use it. Its easier to have him sitting in a chair (in my opinion) before you get to him (have him within distance) do some little moves (practice in a mirror and carmen electras lapdance move videos can give you and idea) play with your hair while dancing, do some floor moves, look at him ofcourse those "bedroom eyes" are always known for turning men on, licking the lips is hot too, then when you finally make your way to him (in a slow sexy way) don't sit on him just yet, dance infront of him, touch your breats your neck, bend down infront of him to rub your legs and then smack your ass, after a little playing, and teasing, finallt sit on him, slowly, whisper/moan in his ear, lick his neck, let him smell your hair, grind, put his hands on you. (In the begining tell him "no touch" haha) Then from there I'm sure you can figure out the rest.. If you don't feel comfortable watch videos, and don't worry if you jiggle, everyone does, and in his eyes you won't look stupid especially wearing lingerie he won't know the different.. Unless you trip! Good luck And have fun!